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But I genuinely hope this would be of help (to you and to anyone whos going through a similar scenario). I used to think eventually wed work through the kinks and finally stop arguing. This yr it was Quarantine and so he always wanted to have his own anime character and I made it after puting so much efforts. But since last year, he stopped doing that. Then he will call and say he thinks he will just wait until Sunday morning to come down, Sunday morning he says maybe that afternoon. No girl its perfectly normal to miss how things where in the beginning! In the beginning, they go overboard to make us happy. Ive mentioned the kissing thing to him a couple of times and so far, no real change. He never compliments me, from my perspective he only tells me when Im not doing something right. We met online and in a long distance relationship and we have not met in person. No updates or goodnight/ goodmorning texts.The thing is, I get worried easily.I didnt wanna bother him cause I knew he could get pretty busy with chores at home and his fam is kinda strict on exposure to electrical gadgets so he doesnt want to be on his phone much when hes with them. He also gave his daughter my phone number so she could text me as she wasnt feeling well. He didnt even make an effort to see me or plan anything the week before he went out of town. He felt his place was his and he wanted to keep his place sacred and clean! I can say that he is the kind of guy who only knows how to love me through his words and not by his actions. I am lonely but at least Im not being rejected because Im not pretty enough or funny or have a lot of friends. Im 22 & hes 25 , why arent we fucking like rabbits? Day after, he went for work in other city and stayed there for 3months. Like, if they arent happy anymore, why not tell us so we can move on? but again i was stupid and foolish.. i was so considerate to him that i believed that things will be different this time. Im still dissatisfied I guess. I asked him a couple of times why he doesnt put any effort and he just told me since we live together I shouldnt have to and I get that point but it doesnt mean just completely give up on putting a effort into the relationship. good luck to you. But I understand coz hes really busy at work. Yes, I feel as if hes pulled away from me. His attitude stinks toohe laughs in my face when I get upset by this. Anniversaries, birthdays etc. And mind you the beginning of relationship we always traveled and did things together. Especially because hes not an introverted person, he has a lot of friends he goes out with often to play board games or to bars. If your boyfriend or others say that youre expecting too much, read 11 Ways to Stop Being the Clingy Girlfriend in a Relationship. I guess in the end we need to decide if hes worth all this heartache. A couple weeks ago, we went to a show which was our first date in a long time. I do still love him, and have a lot of nice moments with him, and great memories. To never have to apologize to me, to never have compassion, to never find contentment, to never make up for hurting me, to never stop enjoying it. Idk if hes extremely busy or whats happening but he doesnt communicate at all with me. Some of your traits are similar to mine and some are similar to someone that I was dating at the time. He did seem to be more engaged but yet no affection towards me. When I text, he ignores them for hours even when he is online in the meantime. We must set boundaries and let no man cross them. I feel like Ive tried everything to get us back on track so weve just spoken on the phone & hes going to think about things tonight. Youll feel encouraged and strengthened, comforted and supported. and I can say that I would of made more of an effort. You dont have to ask him to take care of you or pull you out of that sorrow. I know hes not a bad person maybe he doesnt feel the same about me anymore, or still loves me but is not in love with me anymore. He said he did. I feel like we should break up but as I say he is my life its really difficult and I dont want to hurt him. Then I come home to him sleeping in bed. he said he had been trying to email me but i dont rlly believe it I never got anything. Let him see how much you value the relationship, remind him of how much you have built together and feed on what you both can achieve without hindrance. He sounds willing to work on your relationship, be thankful for that. A. OMGrelate!! I am the first gf my bf ever had and theres only so much I can pin on that reason. Hello Crystal, I am very interested in what you have said, do you mind to give more details please? When I do, its the absolute bare minimum or just a bunch of excuses. HE NEVER CLEANS. I said I didnt think I could be in a relationship with him anymore because I was tired of being the one always doing the work and making an effort. But I feel as though he does not see the page that I am on, is there any way I can do that without it being an argument? Would you like to come along? We have been together for almost a year. I can sorta relate to you, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months, but our relationship took off really quickly, and he seemed like the perfect boyfriend for the first month, but after that, its seemed like Ive gradually lost his respect. I was the one who then initiated contact and although he has apologised he isnt making effort but says he cares for me and doesnt want to hurt me, Im starting to get frustrated about his lack of action still and dont know what to do! Every weekend is now him doing chores, cleaning, going to the dry cleaners and food store at 8am and by the early afternoon the incessant yawning starts. I think the common thread here is, we are attaching ourselves to emotionally unavailable men. Its completely up to me to provide the conversation and topics, which is rather stressful for me 2 years in. After that night i got my phone taken because my grades were awful (bc of home issues) so me and him didnt talk much but that did not stop me.I would sneak the phone and iPad all the time and talk to him still but then my mom found out about this boyfriend of mine (my sister is a snitch) and i told her that i liked him but i wasnt dating him. You are going to find happiness. And also i didnt want to behave with him like that.but i loved him so much and i did every thing i can di for him. Although he did not tell me this beforehand, we have been trying to work on these issues and improve our relationship. I dont think my boyfriend knows how to deal with someone like me. I just dont know what to do. I have been dating my BF for 7 months now. He started texting her about how a great time they had and flirting with her. I almost believe he is avoiding me for not been attracted to me.I am sure that he wants me and I feel frustrated with his actions but I do love other qualities he has. Hes everything youd want in a guy except for the fact that hes not romantic at all, sometimes I feel like he puts no effort into anything. You have the power to change someone very important in your life. A lot of times my boyfriend has realised he did it on purpose to hurt and he regrets his words right after. I randomly always try to put efforts in the relationship but get nothing in return. I tried to tell him how rude that was and he didnt understand where I was coming from and proceeded to tell me I was making a big deal about it. I met my boyfriend at work. David & I had a wonderful relationship, but then I noticed a change in him. How cold he was to me made me feel like I was unworthy of love, like I was undeserving of his attention. He told me the other day if you dont like the way I am, then leave me. Just because he misses a few phone calls or texts doesn't mean he is ignoring you." But you have to become selfless. But he feels that I would have a better chance getting a job were he lives then him getting a Job where I live but thats not the point. I am literally in the exact same position. Don't make it "your fault." I couldnt take the iPad with me if i snuck out but i did tell him to meet me at my gate at midnight. Well today came and guess who backed out of the park?? Now he is distant and asked for time and space. Because honestly when I do he always comes back around. If your self-image is shattered because your boyfriend stopped making an effort, then youre expecting too much from him. Of course you want him to make an effort to wine and dine you; his time, effort, and energy shows he cares about you. His mother is mentally ill and they are recently estranged. He knows Im upset yet does nothing to help me when all I want is a hug. If you do his laundry, stop. Today I found out that hes planning a trip to Rhode Island to hang out with his cohort in May and has even already booked the hotel yet hes not said a word to me. Honestly, I cant feel good about myself because I gave an attention hungry narcissist permission to treat me like crap for 7 years. I want him to want to make things better instead of just making decisions that arent beneficial to the relationship or are just downright harmful to the relationship. I am not at all sure he would do the same for me. I guess i just want everything i had before and i want to feel the efforts made as they were before. I get Fridays and the weekend which I use to do an my studying, school work, exercise, self care, etc. But, he still seems emotionally unavailable in that he doesnt know how to express his feelings for me, or reassure me. Just a text. Im not looking for validation from him, but support. He wont text me all day till I text him. But it hasnt. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. First off I pulled back without warning. Ive been with my bf for a year & half but we have past history. It could be that your partner is losing interest and doesnt know how to communicate that with you," says marriage and family therapist Lynsie Seely. 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